OK, guys. I need some help. Probably my biggest concern through all of this stuff is my kids, my little kids especially. I thought early on that the best thing for them (especially the baby), to create as little trauma as possible for them, would be to have help come to me, instead of having the kids "passed around" to friends in the neighborhood. My thought was that I still want to be as involved as I can be, but some things won't be possible, like carrying around the baby (which, it seems, is all she wants to do!). What is the right thing to do? Ask people to come to me, or count on the resiliency of children and let people care for them in their own homes?
Today has been hard. Kari came again and helped a ton. We cleaned out my room upstairs, moved the bed up, vacuumed everything, cleaned out the play room (don't tell kids: 2 full garbage bags left the house!), and vacuumed the basement. My friend, Karen was here the whole time taking care of the little kids. I'm grateful to both of them! But it's hard to displace my kids from their rooms so I can have what I need (previous post). I think of how the kids have to sacrifice through all of this too. It's not the trial I mind, it's how my kids will be affected by it, and how much help I'll need from others to get them and me through it. So, I've been a little emotional tonight. I know we can get through it and am grateful for all of the help/love/prayers I've received. THANK YOU!
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I, for one, would definitely be available to come to YOU as long as it's not during McKenna's nap time (11-1 ish). But we could be flexible too every once in a while. :)
I would feel the same way too. I would want to keep my kids at HOME as much as possible.
I would want to keep my kids home as much as possible also. I would love to help you..!
On the other hand, sometimes its fun for the kids to have an adventure and get away from it all for a while. You can bill it as extended playdates!! Woohoo!
I'd say a bit of both is going to be the best idea.
I think maybe a little bit of both is a great idea! when my nephews wife was having her surgeries on her hand (the mole I told you about), she had a 2 year old and a 1 week old baby, and her family would take them some and stay with her some. She was unable to hold her baby for several weeks.
Anyway, maybe it will depend too on how you are feeling.
Wish I was closer...good luck, I'll be thinking about you, as you are always in my thoughts and prayers.
My sister had a girl in the hospital for about 3 months. Her other two kids would go every morning to someone else's home. (It was the same people each week). It was easier to have them stay home, but I would stay try to make a regular schedule as much as possible whatever you choose to do(same people, same time, same place).
You will be amazed at how well your children will do, no matter what you decide. The Lord scoops them up and takes care of them too.
Corrine, that is what I must have faith in, that the Lord will scoop them up and take care of them too. You, more than anyone, know it because you've experienced it firsthand!
I am grateful for the insights from all of you! Thank you for helping me think this through. I think a combination of the two makes the most sense, because there may be times when I just need the house quiet so I can rest and heal. Love to you all! Kim
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